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Tuesday, March 23, 2010

Love for the ritual or love for the dead

What do these rituals signify?
Are they emotive, monetary or just a lie?
How many of us truly believe that importance to a person dead ranks above the importance given to a ritual?
Is agreeing and believing in them, throughout generations, actually mutual?
Someone's death is a setback to the family and close
But in the midst of this all, a voice arose
”Come one -come all - let us perform the required set of traditions”
the younger ones are supposed to learn these traditional lessons
You are made to abide by these, regardless of how miserable you feel on losing someone you couldn't imagine your life without
Coz if you don't, your love for the dead person is questioned in doubt
So who exactly are the people whom we do these for?
Is it out of love for the dead or simply practicing some society folklore?

Question this to know how much hypocrisy covers our purely crystallized soul

Life is just about loving and living and not just playing a role

The society makes you do things and rate these above your love – mind you, your feelings are lowered

Do not justify these customs and act like a coward


  1. absolutely true dear.... fear of the dead one's curses and ostracization by the society blind an individual's thinking capacity....

  2. I completely agree. These rituals were practised to reduce the sense of loss and for the family to get busy with something so that they don't brood over the death to much. And if you examine the rituals, youc an make out that they were clearly made for brahmin and that too brahmin men. Hence you have the Go-daan (giving a cow, and thaty too to a brahmin). Brahma daan (giving to a brahmin, and Anna daan (feeding and gifting five brahmin men). There needs to be a rational approach to this. Way to go, Vyoma.
    - Vandana